Loren, 31, who works in advertising, joined the Campaign as a Be Real Ambassador after she realised that she doesn’t see herself reflected in any advertising she comes across. Being “fat, 6ft1 with bright orange hair” Loren doesn’t fit into what society deems as conventional and she doesn’t want to. She’s in full ownership and confident of her body and she doesn’t think “fat” is a dirty word. Being a proud godmother , she’s passionate about setting an example to show others that the most authentic way to be beautiful is to just be you and be proud of exactly who you are. She brings her confidence and authenticity to her role as a Be Real ambassador.
“I was brought up in a family of big, beautiful women and men. My family never made me feel like my size was an obstacle or something to be ashamed of. However, school was a whole other story. All of the girls would rock in to form class wearing the prettiest grey skirts and petit kicker’s shoes.
“I couldn’t get anything to fit. Anything. Shoes, skirts, I couldn’t squidge my wobbles into anything that the other girls were wearing. When you’re 6ft when you’re 13, and plus size, you’re prime picking for bullies. I would endlessly pull at my clothes, hunch over to be as small as physically possible so that no one would notice me. But, I still didn’t feel bad about my body, I felt bad about what other people would say about it.
“When I was 16, I joined my first weight watchers session. I joined because it baffled me that all of these people around me were saying how fat and ugly I was. I didn’t feel that way, but I slowly started to believe them. I thought if so many people are saying these hurtful things to me, it has to be true.
“They’re right, I looked different. I was tall, fat, and ginger. I still am, well with forever changing hair. I didn’t realise at this time that my difference, was my power and something I should never feel ashamed of.
“My biggest challenge wasn’t excepting myself for who I am but facing bullies in everyday life. As a 30- something year old woman you would think bullying doesn’t exist, but I can tell you it does.
“Every time a group of ‘lads’ elbow each other to look over at me, every nasty remark in a bar, every side glance every photo that people sneakily take of me, that’s bullying. Feeling that because I look so different, they can take ownership of my body and deeming it necessary to comment on me, that’s bullying.
“Not only am I taller than most, I am fatter than most. The jibes are like tiny little insignificant pin pricks. I brush them off, ignore them, but sometimes on low days, a mean comment can knock my confidence like a Jenga tower. Sometimes my confidence hits rock bottom. I am human. But I love myself, and it shocks me how many people can’t say the same.”
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